Greg and James’ Same Sex Wedding
What can I say about Greg? When he called me to talk photography for his upcoming wedding, it was like talking to an old friend. He explained he wanted someone comfortable photographing a same sex couple. And while I was super-excited at the prospect of sharing in their day, I was angry to learn that Greg had spoken to other photographers who had refused to do same sex weddings. I liked Greg immediately and told him I’d be thrilled to be a same sex wedding photographer.
And so we chatted and I heard all about his plan to marry James, his partner of 6 years, their Mums and the importance of having a photographer who understood how special this day was to them.
Well, over an hour later we finally got off the phone and I think I was almost as excited about the wedding as Greg and James! I’m so pleased I was chosen to be their wedding photographer and I thank both Greg and James for allowing me to their story here.
This is their story…(as told by Greg)
The first meeting
“We both met at Café in Hamilton back in August 2010. We both had this sense that we wanted to be together from the beginning. After countless hours and days on the phone talking, more dates, we couldn’t be separated. It was like we were lifetime friends and all the stars aligned. It was like we found each other’s soul mate and we couldn’t stop looking into one another’s eyes. We were just fixated and smiling like a young teenager would on their first date. We didn’t notice anyone in the café”.
What made the day so special?
“Being in a room filled with love, raw emotion and unconditional love and non-judgmental views by anyone that attended, including the public just walking by at the ceremony watching us unite as one. Without a doubt our Celebrant Robyn Nicolle and finally having our Mothers, Family and Friends present”.
How you decided on your photographer?
We explained on the first meeting how important it was for Alison to capture not only us, but our Mums for the day. And we shared stories together so that Alison was able to understand the importance for us.
After the first phone call, we spoke several times leading up to the day, with lots of communication. We just connected with her immediately on our first meeting and we felt right in our decision using Alison. She got to know my partner and I as a couple.
For James and myself, finding the right photographer was a major part of the day. Someone who truly understands that documenting a same sex wedding involves more than turning up on the day with camera gear. It’s about discovering the nature of the two people and their relationship and, in turn, finding a way to capture their love, unity and memorable moments that are a reflection of them.
The key is finding out what truly makes two people a partnership – it’s the same key ingredient no matter the couple – gay or straight.
Alison guided us through the whole process, helping us every step of the way making it fun and as stress free as possible. She really cared.
We are beyond happy getting to know Alison. She is a genuine caring professional and so far the few photos we have seen as a sneak preview are just impeccable. We are so excited to see our photos and her work.
She is someone both James and I would highly recommend to our own Community LGBTI and other communities for their event and function.
Advice for future couples?
Its often said that people tell you to relax, enjoy the day and let the day unfold as it presents itself and try not to control it. Because once the day comes, there’s nothing you can do! Not the weather or the way things unfold. Just go with the flow and don’t get stressed. You have something beautiful, which will unfold, and your life long partner waiting for you. The day goes so quick you won’t remember. Trust in those suppliers you have chosen and enjoy the day.
Thank you again Greg and James for allowing me to share your day. I’m truly honoured to now call you guys my friends and I wish you a long and happy life together.
Vendor shout outs!
Wedding and Reception Venue: Eves on the River, Teneriffe
Videographer: Jasper & Ruby Visions
Celebrant: the very entertaining Robyn Nicolle marriage celebrant
Flowers and Stylist: Mark Winchester from That’s Gorgeous
If you’re looking for a same sex wedding photographer I’d love to hear from you! I have photographed over 600 weddings during my 20 years in the wedding industry. I love ALL weddings! My approach to your wedding day will be fun-loving, creative and professional.
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